Today there are psychologists, scientists,
behavioral experts are discussing this, They say what is the point of social
media? Many would argue one of the reason social media became ahead, is the fact
that people wish to present themselves positively before others. yes. They wish
to continuously attain admiration and recognition. They are seeking and craving
and yearning attention. They say the currency for social media sites like
Facebook is attention. yes. Many people what do they want? They want more likes,
more shares, more retweets, more hitsI It’s something that brings them this
happiness. So what do they do is they often post positive what aspects of
their life to the people. Don’t they? yes I’ve just checked in at the Washington
Dulles Airport, I’m on my way to for instance what I’m on my way to Ziyarah.
They would say or checked in a very famous restaurant. They want
others to see, that they’ve got a very nice lifestyle. Or at least some people
want to do that others may have a sincere intention. Yet the problem is.
What the problem is it leaves further and further. As we are told today and
studies have shown to depression, to Envy, to the feelings of hatred and
harbors animosity sometimes. yes. This is something that we have to understand.
Especially when it comes to husband and wife. And what they do, Let me give you a
number of examples. We are told that for example just imagine you’ve had a really
difficult day at work, yes, you’ve had to deal with all kinds of problems.
Mow you’re returning back home and there is traffic you’re stuck in traffic. You
are tired you are you know nearly falling asleep. Now you log on to your
Facebook what do you find on Facebook? A friend has put,
“Feeling blessed I’ve been told that I have attained a pay rise, and I’m now on
my way to the airport to go to vacation in Dubai, and in the middle I will stop
in Karbala. Alhamdulillah! “smiley emoticon”. Yes?
Imagine you look at this and you think and why is it not happening to me? Why?
What’s wrong with me? This man or this woman is cruising in
life why is it that I’m not getting any of this? All that I’m getting is what? Is
negativity. What happens is people begin to compare themselves to others.
Especially husband and wife. Because sometimes people think the grass is
greener on the other side. The idea that exists is that people feed on this
attention. So all we want to do is present a good image of themselves. Have
you ever seen a post on Facebook by the way, where someone posts, “I have had a
normal day, just wanted to mention it.” Have you had this? Of-course not! Nobody would come and say this.They would not necessarily get the likes. Or if they do, People comment: Are you okay? and
In other words. What? In other words there is a danger, By spreading this we
are increasing the envy that exists. Within what? Within the hearts of many we have today complaints by what husbands and wives. About the other. When
the wife would come to the husband and say, “Why are we not going to vacation? to
Barbados. Because my friend is doing it” Yes? I can show you and the husband will
say to the wife, “Why are you not cooking for me a certain type of curry. Why are
you not and both of this is. Because of what they can see on their friends profile, on
their posts. What others are doing. So it increases tension.
It increases fragmentation and the idea becomes that people become slowly and
slowly more depressed. Today studies have shown this. In the University of Missouri.
Scientists there are 700 Facebook users (to test) People who are often on Facebook. About
their experiences. And the results present something which is not
surprising. That those who spend more time on Facebook were inclined to have
to go through depressive States. More than those who spend less time of course.
Because all you see is what others have, and you do not have, and you want to
compare yourself with what with others. There is a very important direction
within the school of Ahlel Bayt and the Prophet and the Ahlel Bayt have come
forward and said keep your life to yourself. In other words there is this
idea of secrecy. Not necessarily disclosing everything for everyone to
know. Meaning what? Meaning that there is a need for us to understand the
repercussions of what we post. Every time we put something, and we tweet something,
and we said something, will be asked and held accountable by Allah (s.w.t).
Its a very important realization, isn’t it?