The shame of addiction arises quite
naturally when people become aware of the effect of their addiction on
themselves and other people. Dealing With the Shame of Addiction And very often people who still don’t want to
deal with their addiction say, “It doesn’t matter, I don’t have any shame about this,” but inside they actually do. They’re very ashamed of it. And they want this to change. What happens is that with the shame is this
very strong judgmental inner self, which says, “You’ve fallen into it all over again, you’ve been to Alcoholics Anonymous, you weren’t going to drink again, three weeks later, here you are drinking.” This very judgmental attitude aggravates the
shame, and makes it harder and deeper. Maybe this person has never had that
sort of kindness and compassion that we talk about when we talk about
mothers feeding their children. But that’s what needs to come in at this particular point. It’s being kind to oneself – not kind to oneself in the sense of, “Oh it doesn’t matter if I have this or not.” But kind to oneself by not being judgmental. That sort of judgment is very harmful.