Iyanla Opens Up About Her Alcoholic Mother | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network

Iyanla Opens Up About Her Alcoholic Mother | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network

See, my mother, she
had a drinking problem. No, that’s not true. She was a alcoholic. [LAUGHING] You know, we like
to pretty things up, call it pretty names. You know, oh, she had
a drinking problem. No, she was a alcoholic. That’s like y’all be
saying, oh, you know, I grew up in dysfunction. No, them people
was crazy as hell. [LAUGHING] But we like to dress things
up, make it all pretty, right? So my mother, she had
a drinking problem. She was a alcoholic. And what happened
was I don’t think she knew she was in labor. AUDIENCE: What? Yeah. It can– listen, it
didn’t happen to me, it happened to her. I’m just making it
up as I go along, OK? So what had happened was she
didn’t know she was in labor and I was trying to
get here, because it was my birthday and everything. [LAUGHING] And so– you know, she had
to get to the hospital. She had to come down
eight flights of stairs. [LAUGHING] And there was like nothing
in there for me to hold on. There was no pole, no strap. There weren’t even
another person so I could grab a foot or something. So she coming down the
eight flights of stairs, already inebriated as hell. It was horrible. I thought, they
could have dropped me on my head or something. And then they got right out
there on Kingston Avenue. This was in the day
of the yellow cabs. Remember the yellow cabs? They used to have the
five seats in them. Anyway, soon as she
sat down in the cab, I figured I better get
here in case there was some more steps in my future. So she sat down and I slid right
out, boop, right in the cab, because it was my birthday. [LAUGHING] I messed up the cab. You know, birthing is very– it’s bloody. It’s a mess. OK? But let me tell you how
that story turned out. It became one of my its. It came out as you’ve been
a problem since day one. [SIGHING] Now– [LAUGHING] I’m trying to figure
out how is it that you drunk and I’m the problem. [LAUGHING] Well, won’t people take
this stuff and twist it around so that it’s
your fault. You know what I’m talking about. Don’t leave me out here
by myself Brooklyn. Mhm. Take they stuff and
twist it around, and now it’s your fault! My fault? You drunk! Drinking brown
liquor on a Sunday. I was born on Sunday,
child, at 3 o’clock. [LAUGHING] So that was my first
it, that I’m a problem. Been a problem since day one. And you know, when they lay that
stuff on you and put it on you, and you hear that thing
repeated over and over, you live up to it or down to it.


  1. Toxic mothers are destroying communities around the world some mothers are mentally incapable of providing their children with the unconditional love they deserve. people are blind to the truth.

  2. โ€œDonโ€™t leave me out here by myself Brooklyn โ€œ ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฟ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฟ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

  3. Ok now. Genuinely. GENUINELY THIS is the Iyanla I would really like to see.

    I didnโ€™t realise she did Stand Up like this. Knowing she has such a sense of humour and yet can be so SERIOUS and โ€˜Fix a Lifeโ€™. Bravo!

    #ThatFanTho ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜Œ

    I LOVE U

  5. this woman really had a hard time growing up and still she is standing. I hope she can live her life fully now and enjoy it fully. she deserves it

  6. My brother always took up for my abusive mother. He would see it snd and still blame me. I was a fighter though. One day me and her got into it. Just got my hair done, she was waiting inside to pour water on my head…she did an then started swinging on me…all i was concerned abt was my Mommy slipping and falling. As she hit me im holding her up. This whole week was trash, her getting drunk fighting me and cursing me out. I had a 4 yr old too. So my brother called and I told him everything that was happening…the i told him it was my daughter's father did it. He went off, how can i let him do that, i need to leave him alone, he'll kill me. My brother sd he was gonna kill him…Then i sd what if he didn't do this to me? He is pissed at this point. He sd then who…? I sd Mommy. He hung up. I allowed her and the honor i was suppose to have for her ruin me. The I read Christ sd, who is my mother who is my brother? So i left. We are better far apart and i allow or disallow what energy they give me.

  7. love her. loved the show wish it was 2 hours OWN should have her on more just bought her get over it book . I hope she gets her own show, she has knowledge she needs to share with the world. go on girl with your beautiful self. I am going to do my work so I can have a better life bless you lyanla praying you get your own show.

  8. Sheโ€™s such a awesome story teller I know sheโ€™s speaking her truth and it may be hard and heartbreaking but her delivery takes out the seriousness of it.

  9. ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผShe's so gorgeous and so CHARMING and funny๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿƒ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿƒ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿƒ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿƒ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿƒ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿƒ

  10. โ€œNowโ€ opens fan โ€œIโ€™m tryna figure out how is it that you drunk, and iโ€™m the problem?โ€ Lmaooo i love this lady.

  11. I LOVE THIS KEEP DOING THE LIVE SHOWS. Your right you will live up to or down to the curse that your parents can speak upon you if YOU DONT CHALLENGE YOUR TRUTH

  12. I can relate to this! My mom always used to aske me what the hell was wrong with me from such a young age… Eventually I was always left wondering what was wrong with me… Even tho my concience would tell me that it wasn't me it was her … I still lived up to its

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