Man Shares How a Porn Addiction Ruined His Relationships

Man Shares How a Porn Addiction Ruined His Relationships


The following program contains mature subject matter. Viewer discretion is advised. We were talking about if an addiction to porn is real. Discussing this with us is clinical psychologist Doctor Robert Weiss. And joining us now is the founder of a community based porn addiction recovery site Alex Rhodes. Alex thank you for being here. You heard us talking in the first segment about different viewpoints on, is it an addiction? Is it, how real is it? I want you to talk a little bit about porn and how you say it destroyed your life. Sure, so internet porn I first got ahold of it around the age of 11 or 12. I’m in that first generation of kids who grew up going through puberty and having access to high speed digital porn online. And that’s totally different from what our grandparents had with the Playboys and stuff. But digital porn it’s available anytime, anywhere, unlimited amounts, you could pirate it, or get it for free. And it went from an innocent curiosity about the female form to an out of control compulsion. Really quick. And so when I was 13 or 14 years old, I think around 14 I actually injured myself going at it so vigorously I guess. So, yeah kind of embarrassing. Great thing to go on TV and talk about.
That’s sad, it’s sad. So you imagine you’re running in your house and there’s carpet and you just skid on your knees on the ground you can actually do that to your genitals too if you use porn too much. So I made a vow, I’m not gonna do this for 24 to 48 hours to allow my injuries to heal. And it had nothing to do with religious shame. I didn’t really grow up religious. I had no moral issues with pornography, I still wouldn’t consider myself to be anti-porn. I simply realized at that time I couldn’t even not do it for day to allow my injuries to heal. I realized at that point it was out of control. Can I ask you, when did you get to a place where you were able to recover, so to speak? So my story really was heavily rooted in porn, and for me it was over 10 hours a day. I tried to quit dozens of times, hundreds of times. And really what happened was, is whenever I was old enough to enter into relationships and start trying to engage in sexual activity I realized that I essentially conditioned my brain to prefer pixels over, you know, people and partners. So when I went to go and start engaging in sexual relationships I realized I wasn’t able to maintain arousal. Because my brain was like, what is this, a person? You’re essentially depersonalizing the person in front of you and imagining porn in your head to actually maintain arousal. So it really not only impacted my grades, and my life, and everything else, but it also impacted my relationships. And when I was 21 I created a website to help people recover. It’s essentially just a forum where addicts, you know whatever you want to call them, congregate together and encourage each other to abstain from porn and try to recover.

6 comments

  1. Is there any guy out there who doesn’t watch porn?
    I know this guy has an addiction which is a huge problem. But is there any guy that doesn’t watch porn at all?
    Just wondering.
    I find it sick.

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