Musings: Overcoming Gaming Addiction

Musings: Overcoming Gaming Addiction


Okay, so here we go.
Recently, about a week ago I was requested to make a video on how to
overcome gaming addiction, and I didn’t think I’ll be making videos again
anytime soon about just talking about stuff like this or just my musings
and thoughts and psychology, stuff like that in general, but here we are. So, this video
will be about what I think would be the way to overcome gaming addiction. And these are just, so as a disclaimer,
these are just my thoughts and they’re more, well they’re general from my perspective and they won’t apply to everybody, so you shouldn’t take it as gospel, I
think that’s how you say it, or like the Bible. It’s not like a rule or anything. It’s
more like guidelines or possible explanations on how to overcome gaming
addiction. But once again, they might not work for you. So… yeah, let’s start. I think
first off, we need to start off- we need to have.. to define what exactly gaming
addiction is and I’m gonna go with this definition, which is, gaming addiction- gaming becomes an addiction the moment that it is impacting your life
negatively and I mean that in the more basic sense. Things such as, affecting
your sleep, your eating habits, your ability to provide for yourself. Let’s
say you’re an adult and then you’re gaming to the point where you’re not
working enough to provide whatever you need for yourself to be an adult. Basically, to have enough money. I think that’s when
gaming is an addiction because, you don’t have control enough to actually
keep yourself alive. Therefore if you are able to keep yourself fed, do
things in life that keep you socialized and happy, you can
pay for your bills, sleeping properly, stuff like that, then is it gaming addiction? I’m not sure. If you do it (game) and
you’re healthy, maybe it’s just you’re extremely passionate about your hobby.
And so if that’s where you are then maybe you don’t need to watch the rest
of this video. Moving on. Alright, I really liked this
definition that, one of my educators, during my counseling studies, gave for
addiction, which is: anything that negatively affects your physical and/or
mental health over a long period. Normally, the time that you
diagnose a mental disorder, the time that you need to give to allow a diagnosis of
a mental disorder, is around 3 – 6 months, let’s say. And of course if
you don’t have control over it (referring back to the definition of addiction). And yeah, moving on. It’s pretty much the same
thing as what I just said, but just to reiterate it. Now, why does gaming addiction exist? reiterate it. Now why does gaming addiction exist? Hmm, there are a lot of reasons
and these are some of the reasons that I can think of. Maybe it’ll hit a spot
for you and maybe it won’t. All right, so, I think it exists, the gaming
addiction exists, like addiction to gaming. I think it exists for mainly two reasons. The first reason
being for escape. It’s there when you don’t want to be in your reality, which
probably means that your reality is not so good. The other
reason is because you don’t have something more meaningful to do in life.
Something that drives you and makes you feel like you have purpose and drive-
well I just said drive. Your motivation. Nothing to stimulate you because games
are stimulating right? It really activates the brain. So those
are two of the reasons, two of the main reasons that I can think of to try and
be more general and broad. But it’s never that simple, because for example, gaming can start off as an escape and then it becomes something
else, and I think that’s how it actually works in life. Because it’s never
just one reason and it doesn’t just stay that way. It evolves and mutates, changes,
goes back and forth, it combines, stuff like that. Life is never simple enough to
be explained in a simple manner. Let’s expand on the two main reasons.
The first reason is escape, I think that’s pretty simple. If you have a shit
life and nothing’s happening or maybe you just seek something to
really make your life more colorful, vibrant and
more fun, then games are a nice way to go. They also don’t require you to socialize, so if you don’t have- if you’re not good at socializing, then,
games. Although if you think about it we actually learn to socialize in games,
just in a different way. But it still is socializing. Most games have a
social element to it these days. Obviously except single player games
but still, they have dialogue and stuff like that, most of them. The
other reason is (mumble) The other reason that I said before, which is you don’t have meaning in your life.
You don’t have purpose, or you have nothing to really make you feel alive, and
gaming makes you feel alive. That one is a bit more complicated, but
to expand on it… If you look at gaming in general, at least with
most of the games that I’ve played. Games have stats, you can just open the
menu and then you will see your stats. You’ll see how much you’ve grown. It’s
very easy to measure, it’s just right there. Whereas in real life, there’s
nothing there for you to really look at and verify your growth. Whereas in games,
for example, a typical MMORPG you have your level, your stats, you have all
these metrics basically. I think they’re called metrics right? Metric is
just a tool of measurement? Let’s just check… Yes, basically, but it’s a bit more
psychological term. Anyways, you have tools of measurement, so you know
exactly where you are and whenever you do something, you know just
how much progress you get from it and to expand out, you have goals, they’re written goals, you
can see those goals, so you know what you’ve got to do next. And so it’s very
simple. It gives you an objective and a direction to go into –
to go towards. And that’s very stimulating. In life, if we had a
direction to go towards and if we could ever just view every single of
our stats, that would be amazing. It would make life much simpler,
I think it would motivate us to do things. Because we get to really
see the results straight away pretty much. Those are the two reasons
why I think gaming exists, or gaming addiction exists. And now let’s go on to:
how do you get over it? And by this point, I think I should have
already answered what I believe to be the way to get over it, which is to find a
purpose in your life and find something that you really want to do. I kind of
didn’t get to thinking about how to talk about this exactly, but to wing
it, basically Should I just spit out stuff? Yeah, maybe, let’s try that. So, you want to find purpose in your life or
find something that you can do in your life that is meaningful.
That’s the first thing and then obviously there are still things missing,
such as: how do I know that I’m working towards achieving that (your purpose)? And the way to do
that, is to set a short-term, mid-term and long-term goal.
Something like that. Because those goals kind of become your direction and your guide. The long-term goal is the bigger picture, for example if you’re playing a game, the long-term goal is to become number one. Then
how do you become number one? Maybe you want to learn to do little things, get proficient at various mechanics or techniques.
So your short-term goal, or your little milestones, will be “What specific things
do I need to do to achieve my long-term goal?”. Then you have things to
do, to grind, in your life. There you go, it’s like a game
in itself. The measuring part, having a tool to measure your growth and
your progress is a bit harder. I can’t really think of anything in particular,
but for myself, I dance, and I see my progress when I watch recordings of my
dance practice, because that’s just one of the ways to improve. That’s
one of the ways to improve for most things in life if you watch yourself, and
you really have a look at yourself. Objective reviewing. That’s why
feedback is a thing. It all comes together and I hope it makes sense what
I’m saying to you, I hope you can see the connections between everything
that I’m saying. Let’s use dance, I think that’s really good, because I can
really explain on that. My long-term would be to dance in a way that I just enjoy watching. Like, I just enjoy watching myself. These days I’m
kind of enjoying watching myself, well I am enjoying watching myself
more often than not. But of course there are still things I wanna improve on and
it’s just little things, little movements that I want to make look more cleaner,
sharper, stronger, sexier, stuff like that. And the way that I improve on that is to
literally go to that specific move that I want to improve, and if I don’t
really have a basis for how to improve it, I’ll maybe look on- normally YouTube has
the answer, they have a lot of answers. They can just show you how to do things here and
there and you can probably look that up for yourself, whatever you want to do. I’ll look at a little thing that I need to do and then I’ll work on that
specifically. Then later on when I go to the next dance practice I
will then watch myself by recording and see if I’ve improved. Normally if I
spend time on it, I dedicate myself to it, dedicate time to it and commit to it,
do it properly, whatever that may mean to you, then I do generally see improvement
and that’s I guess a way of measuring improvement. I think that’s it
actually on how to overcome gaming addiction. improvement. I think that’s it
actually on how to overcome gaming addiction. I don’t know if that makes sense, I’ll need
to watch the video again but I can’t think of anything else. Let’s have a look
over everything again, summarize it for myself. So I
explained what it means to be addicted to gaming which is, to game to the extent
where it is affecting your health, your physical health and, in turn, your
mental health, which mainly is sleeping, eating, and having some way to provide
for yourself, whatever way that may be, normally having a job and then
having the money to buy food and stuff like that, and have a place to sleep in. If you are able to sleep properly, you’re able to provide for yourself, able to eat, then maybe you’re
not addicted. And then, why does gaming exist? It exists because we either don’t have something to do in
our lives or because we just wish to escape from our lives, which is kind of
the same thing, because if we don’t have something to do in our lives, we don’t
have a goal to strive towards, then our lives is kind of boring or kind of… It’s
painful in the sense that we have no purpose. That’s a sort of pain. It’s
more psychological pain or mental pain, but I think you can also feel it in
your body, like a restlessness. The other reason
is to escape from your painful life. One can lead to the other and normally it’s the escape, well,
they’re kind of the same thing but, let’s just say you have a crap life, your
family is just really… Whatever your situation is, your environment, is
not good, and games are good because they let you just have fun. So you escape
into the games and they start giving you goals to do, and then you feel that
sense of goal achievement, which is an adrenaline rush, I think it was
dopamine, one of those neuro- chemicals in your brain, that gets released and makes you feel success. So that’s why
gaming addiction exists. And then how you get over it, is to find something to do in
your life that is meaningful and then you will set goals so that
you have a way to measure, and then you have a direction, or more of a
direction than just that end-term direction, or end-game direction. And yeah I think that really is it I can’t really think of anything else Don’t really want to complicate it that much. If you have any questions, leave them in the comments below and I
will try answer them to the best of my ability. But of course remember that I
don’t know what kind of life you have so I can’t give specific answers, I can only
give general answers according to my understanding of this whole thing. And yeah I guess that’s it. Thank you
for watching, I hope this video, or this talk made sense to the person who
requested it. I might start making videos
again on my thoughts on things. So, yes, see you next time

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