Technology and Porn Addiction

Technology and Porn Addiction


You know I think it is kind of funny in a
way how much our access to sexual content had changed, just in the past fifteen or twenty
years, which seems like a lifetime to me now. Twenty years ago if I wanted to look at porn,
I had to put my clothes on, get in my car, you know, drive to that bad part of town.
Go to the adult bookstore, get the book, or the magazine, or the video, take it home.
And that was a big process. And you know what, I didn’t always have had the money to buy
it. I might of had to rent it and return it and do the whole thing over. But what does
it really take now to have access to profound sexual content? You know, all you do is pick
up your phone, or your laptop, or go online. So, the biggest issue that’s changed recently
is how our immediate access to intensely pleasurable experiences and images. You know I really
believe if you put cocaine in the medicine cabinet of everyone in this country, you would
have a lot more cocaine addicts, not everyone, but you would have a lot more cocaine addicts,
simply because it was so available to everyone. And when you take pornography out of the small,
few places it existed and you take it and you put it in places where it’s immediately
accessible to everyone, you’re going to have more people who are going to slip into what
might start out as impulsive behavior or occasional behavior, but then might escalate into regular
behavior and before they know it begin to be taking away from their recreational time,
their time with their families, their time with loved ones, or even their time just being
social. It’s interesting because sometime people will say to me, “Can you be a sex addict
if you’re not having sex with other people?” And the answer is absolutely. I mean compulsive
masturbation to porn is a huge issue for many sex addicts. I work with sex addicts who are
married or in relationships and they don’t have sex or intimacy with their spouses because
they’re masturbating to porn all the time. I work with single people who don’t go out
and date because they get most of their needs met through the Internet and porn or websites
and webcams and all that. And they don’t have the motivation or the inclination to go out
and date and be social and start meeting other people because they’re turning to the Internet
for all of those needs. So you can be a sex addict and not have sexual experiences with
other people simply through porn and compulsive masturbation. And now that we have such easy,
free anonymous access to excessive and extensive amounts of pornography, it’s much easier to
develop an addiction problem.

One comment

  1. The cocaine analogy is dead-on. The Internet has given us sex addicts a new, powerful, almost limitless drug that can be accessed with incredible ease.

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