The Enabler | Understanding Co-Dependency And Family Roles In Addiction

The Enabler | Understanding Co-Dependency And Family Roles In Addiction


(intense instrumental music) – Well, the Enabler role
is self-explanatory. I mean, anybody and everybody
knows what enabling is. You can certainly look up the definition, but enabling is disabling. When you enable somebody to do nothing, you disable them from doing something. Let’s stop defining the roles for the purposes of passing an exam. Let’s look at why the
role, why are you enabling? Why are you doing this? See the thing is, when
we talk to families, they come up, they come
up with more excuses not to intervene than
the addict or alcoholic will come up with not to go to rehab. And like the addict and the alcoholic, all of their excuses
come down to one thing: they’re not done, they
don’t think you’re done, and they don’t wanna stop
getting high or drunk. But yet, they’ll give us a million excuses that sound great and
they’re all misplaced. Family’s the same thing. (mocking voice) “Well
you know, we can’t get “everybody together,
everybody’s gotta do this.” People come up with a million excuses. What if they get hit by a car, or were in the hospital on their deathbed? You wouldn’t look at you
schedule, you’d rush there. So, why? It isn’t what is the
definition, like I said. This isn’t a class, you’re
not getting an exam. It’s why are you doing it? Why are you enabling? Why are you co-dependent? What are you gaining? What could possibly be so beneficial in the gain that you
receive that the exchange is keeping somebody else sick to the point of where they could die. (intense instrumental music)

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